All my life, I have been quite afraid of commitment. During my teenage years; I also remember making comments like “I will never get married” & arguing over it with my dad. What changed my beliefs; is a story which needs to be told!
I grew up in a very liberal family & I was always very independent in my outlook & approach. However, whenever I saw people, families, and movies I thought when one is in a marriage (which to me at that time was a final destination in everybody’s life), one looses freedom. I never thought so because I was influenced by those melodramatic movies or was afraid of having a typical Indian husband, but just the idea of being in a relation & revolving my entire life around him seemed like a scary idea! It was not the fear of responsibility, but it was a fear of commitment. However, time has made me realize, when life brings you in front of the right person, all fears disappear & within seconds you know you were afraid of commitment for no reason at all!
Sanjay & I knew each other for almost 3 years before we got married. By nature, I was dead scared to commit him. One thing gave me the courage though; he has this inherent quality in him to make things look simpler! For the logical person that I am, I thought, he can make my life simple too! Marrying sanjay has made me realize that one can be committed for life & still have all the freedom in the world. Freedom is always accompanied by responsibilities & sanjay has made me realize mine! Not that I was irresponsible before, but it was him who made me realize that life can be beautiful with responsibilities & bondage. Today I feel like responsibilities help us learn how to handle life better! My brother once asked me why do people get married & I told him that I got married to have someone by me to witness my life!
I grew up in a very liberal family & I was always very independent in my outlook & approach. However, whenever I saw people, families, and movies I thought when one is in a marriage (which to me at that time was a final destination in everybody’s life), one looses freedom. I never thought so because I was influenced by those melodramatic movies or was afraid of having a typical Indian husband, but just the idea of being in a relation & revolving my entire life around him seemed like a scary idea! It was not the fear of responsibility, but it was a fear of commitment. However, time has made me realize, when life brings you in front of the right person, all fears disappear & within seconds you know you were afraid of commitment for no reason at all!
Sanjay & I knew each other for almost 3 years before we got married. By nature, I was dead scared to commit him. One thing gave me the courage though; he has this inherent quality in him to make things look simpler! For the logical person that I am, I thought, he can make my life simple too! Marrying sanjay has made me realize that one can be committed for life & still have all the freedom in the world. Freedom is always accompanied by responsibilities & sanjay has made me realize mine! Not that I was irresponsible before, but it was him who made me realize that life can be beautiful with responsibilities & bondage. Today I feel like responsibilities help us learn how to handle life better! My brother once asked me why do people get married & I told him that I got married to have someone by me to witness my life!
